Sheitel vs.tichel

Maidel, in response to my last entry, wrote

But I take issue with her statement that she has never seen a woman slip a tichel off her head. Perhaps in Israel she has never seen it, but look in every frum neighborhood in Brooklyn and Queens and you will see FFB women (some even with yichus) who are struggling with their yiddishkeit and their tichels are halfway back on their head, and it doesn't take much more for it to come off completely. It's in Kew Gardens, Flushing, Boro Park, Flatbush, and yes, even in Crown Heights.

I don't really understand how someone can "take issue" with what I stated has been my own personal experience. Maybe Maidel would like a little elaboration on my part- here it is- ( and in my next blog entry I will b'n try to not even mention sheitels- I hope)

The tshuva that I was commenting on said

As to your inquiry about the difference between covering one's hair with a sheitel and covering one's hair with a kerchief:

The difference is extremely simple. When the hair is covered with a kerchief and one meets a non-religious friend or acquaintance, then quite often the kerchief "slides up" or disappears altogether into the pocket.

This, of course, cannot be done with a sheitel. Ultimately, keeping the hair constantly covered becomes second nature.

There are a few statements and assertions that, based on my personal experience, I just do not see happening. That is to say, I see no proof provided by the Rebbe here of the inherent advantage of sheitelach over tichlach. The issue is referred to as "extremely simple"- if this were indeed the case there would not be such a broad range of halachicly based opinions on this topic- (not even counting the India/ avodah zara issue!). In my personal experience people that b'shita wear tichlach and davka not a sheitel are scrupulous to cover their hair. I am not saying that there are not women that b'davka wear sheitels who are not equally as scrupulous. There are *many*. There are many women who wear sheitels for tznius- they feel that it covers all their hair more efficiently and they are makpid that the sheitel conforms to the spirit of tznius as well. But this letter make it sounds like tichel wearers are flaky in their yiras shamayim and will toss off their tichel at the drop of a hat;) I have just never seen that. Women who b'shita wear tichels, for tznius reasons just don't do that. I am not referring to women who wear sheitels, falls, etc and on a shlumpy day throw on a snood or a bandana. These are the women whose hair shows in a cloth covering and also shows in a sheitel, indeed their sheitels are designed to integrate their own hair so that it looks more natural.
The women who Maidel refers to, whose headcovering slips off, eventually to slip off completely will just as soon take off a wig as they will another covering. And they definitely do not *b'shita* (for tznius reasons) not wear sheitels. I do not judge any of the aforementioned women. Each person has their own nisayon. Uncovering my hair in public was never mine, and I do not know how would act were I in their shoes. I just wish that there could be shalom and not always one group putting the other down. There are valid reasons for wearing a sheitel and they don't have to involve putting down women who don't wear them (and vice versa). I find it strange that this is *the* difference that *anyone* would see between wearing a sheitel and wearing a tichel- essentially that anyone who wears a tichel does not have a minimum amount of yiras shamayim. Again, I say "HUH?!"

Kol Tuv